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December 7, 2017 - June 10, 2018
Without rebuking their desire to lead, Jesus quickly and sharply rebuked their misguided views on leadership.
leverage authority not to serve others, but to serve themselves.
We might fall into the trap of believing it’s up to us—if it’s going to get done, we must do it at whatever cost, regardless of those in authority over us.
The lie of kibosh is that God can’t be trusted, so I need to passively wait or take matters into my own hands.
when I responsibly cultivate that ambition and gain influence by answering his call upon my life, I’ll eventually have the authority to do what he wants me to do.
To kabash is to bring something under your control so you can make it more effective, beautiful, and useful.
The older I get, the more I realize that between the extremes there is usually a third option.
But at some point, we have to train our minds to resist simplistic and dualistic thinking.
A kabash leader doesn’t need authority, but he or she cultivates influence through relationships.
it’s getting behind people and helping them move ahead.
The way to lead is to serve, and the way to create something great is to give people space to thrive in the way God has gifted each one.
A kabash leader uses his or her influence to help others get ahead and not to get ahead of others. A kabash leader pours out, trusting that God’s new mercies each day will be enough to fill them up.
for whom am I leading?
When you make a judgment about someone, specifically your manager, you will persistently look for behaviors to justify the judgment you’ve made.
When you’re not in charge, you can still take charge.
You need to own your desires and ambitions; no one can lead you any further than you’re leading yourself.
When a younger leader tells me he is frustrated at not having a voice yet or not having influence yet, the answer I give him is to continue to be faithful in leading himself well. You can never go wrong by making that decision.
Your moral authority is vastly more important than your positional authority, and nothing erodes moral authority more than undermining the person you claim to be following.
Is someone getting attention you feel you deserve?
Leading ourselves requires monitoring those dark corners of our hearts where these dangerous emotions lie.
I already knew some of this about myself. I was just hoping no one else knew it too.
the greatest mistake you can make is to inflate your own leadership ability.
The first misstep success brings is to credit the success to your own doing,
you’ll need to be honest about where you are and how you got there.
If you want to know where you are and how you’re doing, you have to ask.
I’ve gotten jobs and I’ve lost jobs based on what people have said about me in rooms where I was not present.
• If money were no issue, what would I choose to do with my time? • What really bothers me? What breaks my heart? • What makes me pound the table in frustration or passion? • What gives me life or makes me come alive?
If you just lack motivation, pick a goal, set a deadline, and create an artificial consequence to motivate you.
LEAD ME PLAN WHERE AM I? OBJECTIVES EXECUTION & ACCOUNTABILITY Self-Health Complaints of being distracted in one-on-one meetings Be more present by keeping track of conversations in a journal 360° survey of coworkers and friends at the end of the year Social Health Too many random meetings 100 meals and coffees with: 1. An encouragement 2. A learning Keep list on spreadsheet and keep visible Spiritual Health Want to be more consistent in reading the Bible Leverage a Bible reading plan for consistency Check in with Wednesday morning guys
just dropping the expectations can really change things.
unmet expectations have a way of ruining relationships because trust is broken.
Sometimes, if our boss isn’t the greatest of bosses, we act like God is not in the situation.
What if the only way for him to grow it in you is to put you under a bad leader?
When I desire what God wants to teach me more than I desire getting done what I want to get done, I am in the best place.
How we see the world has less to do with the way the world is and more to do with the way we are.
“We must look at the lens through which we see the world, as well as the world we see and that the lens itself shapes how we interpret the world.”
The more I see of the world, the better I see my own world. And the better you see your world, the more informed and equipped you will be to make wise decisions.
yours. And once you’ve found that “why we exist” piece, smack-dab at the top of your job responsibilities should be connecting your specific role to that overall mission and vision.
They’ve found that the satisfaction employees have in their job is directly correlated to their ability to see how what they do fits into the big picture.
Those leaders who feel a strong sense of ownership and have made the crucial connection between what their job is and how it drives results for the organization are more deeply engaged.
Leaders who feel a strong sense of ownership are leaders who connect their job to the results of the organization.
Seeing what you do have will allow you to overcome what you don’t.
A small view of God leads to an outlook of despair. An outlook of despair for the future will lead to being consumed with your present circumstances.
There is a confidence that comes from believing that God has you where he wants you.
This is not just positive thinking, a self-delusion that ignores reality. It’s based on a different perspective of your reality, a panoptic view of your circumstances.
This positivity is not just a personality trait. Positivity is a character trait.
More important than making the right decision is owning the decision handed to you and making it right.
A deep trust in God and a persistent hope for the future will push you to keep growing and learning because you believe God is getting you ready for something he will lift you into.
The panoptic view fights for we over me.
Too many of us think “due time” means “right after we pray.”
