love cannot cause pain; attachments cause pain. we create attachments in our mind when we want to hold on to something or someone, or when we expect things to be a certain way. when the attachments that we create in our minds break, we feel their rupture deeply. how deeply depends on how much we identify with the image that we have created. when things happen contrary to these images that we hold dear in our minds, we feel pain from these attachments being stretched and broken. attachments are not a form of true love. unconditional love, selfless love, a love without expectations is a higher
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