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before i could release the weight of my sadness and pain, i first had to honor its existence
three things make life harder: not loving yourself refusing to grow not letting go
before we can heal and let go, what ails us deeply must first come to the surface
i spent so much time creating versions of myself that were far from the truth, characters i would perform depending on who was around layers that could hide the inner dance of turmoil, between my lack of confidence, the pain i did not understand, and the uneasiness that comes with reaching out to others for the love that i was not giving myself
it is through the observation of all that we are and accepting what we observe with honesty and without judgment that we can release the tension that creates delusions in the mind and walls around the heart.
the mind is full of shadows, but shadows cannot withstand the patience and perseverance of light—our minds can become like stars, powerful united fields of pure light. but unlike a star, the healed mind will dwell in awareness and wisdom.
one of my greatest mistakes was believing that another person could hold together all the pieces of me
don’t run away from heavy emotions honor the anger; give pain the space it needs to breathe this is how we let go
ego sees problems consciousness sees solutions
sometimes growth hurts, but it is the type of pain that is easier to endure because it is helping us come forward as a better version of ourselves.
the healer you have been looking for is your own courage to know and love yourself completely
i do not wish to change the past it made me who i am today i only want to learn from it and live in a new way
letting go doesn’t mean forgetting; it means we stop carrying the energy of the past into the present
healing begins with acceptance and culminates in letting go.
a real sign of progress is when we no longer punish ourselves for our imperfections
and so she moves forward, with a little more wisdom, a heart that is more open to love, and a mind that welcomes deep healing
her rebirth was stunning— she lifted herself up from the depths of despair, grasped her dreams, embedded them in her heart, and walked forward into a future that only her will and vision could control
much of my confusion and sadness came from being disconnected from myself. the greatest journey i have taken so far is the one where i ended the alienation between me and all that i am, the one where i connected my light and my darkness, where i united what i wanted to know with what i did not want to face. only through this union and truthfulness did i begin to feel at home within my own being.
there is great power in honoring the reality of our current emotions—not feeding them or making them worse but simply recognizing that this is what has arisen in this present moment and that this will also change. when we create this space within ourselves—a space of calmness that is undisturbed by the storm—the storm tends to pass more quickly.
it may have taken a long time, but in the end it did not matter. after much healing through self-observation she now had strength, she now had courage, and the wisdom to wield her new magic with virtue. no longer did she run from her pain or her troubles, no longer did she allow delusions to capture her mind, no longer did she doubt that the greatest healer she has ever met is her own unconditional love.
letting go does not mean that we forget, and it does not mean that we give up. it just means that we are not letting our present happiness be determined by things that happened in the past or by things we wish to happen in the future.
it is the things you say no to that really show your commitment to your growth
we can’t heal what is ignored, nor can we live happily and freely if we continue running away from our own darkness.
when we begin healing ourselves, it sets off waves that connect us to those who have healed in the past and those who will heal in the future.
what we do reverberates throughout time and space—like a rock thrown into a lake, the circles it creates move in all directions.
serious transformations begin with two commitments: the courage to try new things and act in new ways the honesty needed to no longer hide from or lie to ourselves
being honest with yourself is an act of self-love
self-love is creating space in your life to heal your body and mind
true self-love is accepting yourself for all that you are, especially the darkest parts
healing yourself will ask more of you more rest more self-love more letting go more time for learning more space for transformation more honesty about how you feel more time developing good habits more courage to try new practices more faith in yourself and the process more time cultivating your inner peace
i cannot make you happy, but i can commit to support you in the creation of your own happiness
fear seeks control revenge prolongs pain animosity disrupts peace compassion ignites healing honesty releases burdens happiness is letting go
giving yourself the space and time to respond instead of reacting blindly is an important way to reclaim your power
“‘strength’? what do you mean by ‘strength’?” “what i mean is how firm is your inner peace, how honestly can you observe yourself without judgment, how limitless is your love for yourself and all beings, and how willing are you to change yourself for the better?”
courage + letting go + self-love = a growing awareness
how will you help heal the world? by healing myself and supporting the healing of those around me. by allowing love to fill my very being and guide my every action. by understanding that if it causes harm, it must not be the right way.
observe. accept. release. transform.
the conscious may think this to be so, but if the subconscious is still burdened with patterns that cause us misery, delusion, and the pain that comes with unceasing reactions, then we are not yet wholly free. the greatest oppressor is the untrained mind.

