In her book, “You’re Not Crazy – You’re Codependent”, Jeanette Elisabeth Menter points out “people pleasers are created by the emotional abuse or neglect they suffered in the form of withholding love and affection. They lack confidence in their ability to maintain strong relationships with others based on who they are as individuals. Instead, they feel they must constantly be performing acts of service to others to gain acceptance. That requires a lot of work, effort, and energy. It is a lifestyle that eventually leads to resentment and burnout”.
