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Personality Ethic—personality growth, communication skill training, and education in the field of influence strategies and positive thinking—
As Emerson once put it, “What you are shouts so loudly in my ears I cannot hear what you say.”
“Into the hands of every individual is given a marvelous power for good or evil—the silent, unconscious, unseen influence of his life. This is simply the constant radiation of what man really is, not what he pretends to be.”
paradigm is. It is a theory, an explanation, or model of something else.
While practices are situationally specific, principles are deep, fundamental truths that have universal application.
Principles are guidelines for human conduct that are proven to have enduring, permanent value.
Listening involves patience, openness, and the desire to understand—highly developed qualities of character.
The way we see the problem is the problem.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ARISTOTLE
Knowledge is the theoretical paradigm, the what to do and the why. Skill is the how to do. And desire is the motivation, the want to do. In order to make something a habit in our lives, we have to have all three.
Interdependence is a choice only independent people can make.
Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.
proactivity
It’s not what happens to us, but our response to what happens to us that hurts us.
A serious problem with reactive language is that it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Proactive people focus their efforts in the Circle of Influence. They work on the things they can do something about. The nature of their energy is positive, enlarging and magnifying, causing their Circle of Influence to increase.
The negative energy generated by that focus, combined with neglect in areas they could do something about, causes their Circle of Influence to shrink.
Direct control problems are solved by working on our habits.
Indirect control problems are solved by changing our methods of influence.
No control problems involve taking the responsibility to change the line on the bottom on our face—
It is inspiring to realize that in choosing our response to circumstance, we powerfully affect our circumstance. When we change one part of the chemical formula, we change the nature of the results. ***
