‘Leigh,’ he says, ‘when I was a young priest, one of the Jesuits who was a very flawed human being but still a mentor, he said people are often afraid to visit someone in hospital. But he said, it’s not about you, it’s about them, forget about you. It doesn’t matter what I say or do, it’s not about me. It’s about that person. And so, you know, if you’re inadequate, you say the wrong thing, so what? If they have a go at you, so what? Fine. Just be there. It’s them that’s the focus. I don’t have a pathway or a lifeline, I just believe in people.
