There is something scary about picking your family. It’s not romantic. It means you aren’t just waiting for your soul mate to arrive. It means you know you are making decisions that will affect the rest of your life. It means you are thinking about the fact that your relationship needs to work not only in the here-and-now but also in the there-and-then. It means you are the one who is putting together the family about which your own children—if you have them—will someday say, “You can’t pick your family, but you can pick your friends.”
