For a host of reasons, both social and developmental, early adversities are often kept secret and are not spoken about until one’s twenties. Then, just when a twentysomething is ready to talk about what has not gone so well, they show up in a therapist’s office where the clinician may be too distracted by what has. Almost effortlessly, YAVIS clients seem to have friends and accolades and talents and successes. Yet, for many of these clients, life has not been as easy as they make it look, and this is a discrepancy that even many therapists cannot hold.
