The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—And How to Make the Most of Them Now

by Meg Jay

1. What are your thoughts on marriage? Do you want to get married or do you envision another form of commitment? What does marriage mean to you? What do you think the differences are between dating and marriage? What are you excited about? What are your fears? What kind of wedding might you like to have? 2. Do I make you a better person? When do I bring out the best in you? 3. Are you religious? Do you regularly—or ever—attend religious services or events? What religion were you raised with? Would you want to raise your children similarly? Would your parents want our children to be raised with a certain religion? 4. How are we going to manage our money? Do you want to combine finances? What if one of us earns more than the other—or has more debt? Is my money your money? Is your money my money? Is my debt your debt? Is your debt my debt? How do you feel about separate bank accounts? What do you spend money on? Do we need to ask each other before making purchases of a particular size? Will we talk about our finances on a weekly or monthly basis, or will one person mostly “handle it”? When will we start saving or investing, and how will we learn about it? Do you want a prenup? 5. Do you want to have kids? If so, how many and at what ages do you imagine having them? Do you see yourself being an older or younger parent? Do you want to start trying to have kids soon following marriage, or do you want to wait awhile? Would you ever want to become a foster parent or adopt a child?...