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Ironically, when parents bring up their children with a godly, biblical independence in view, their children actually want to spend time with them when they are grown up.
When you have a home filled with grace, it is not without standards. You are not introducing moral anarchy. Grace is not an amorphous, gelatinous mass. Grace has a backbone. However, when the standards are broken, the heaviest sacrifices in the work of restoration are made by the guardians of grace, not by enforcers of law, finger-pointers, parental accusers, or people who correct in a nasal tone of self-pity.
Liberty is stricter than legalism, and liberty is freer than license.
If you were not the kind of kid you ought to have been, then you don’t fix that by refusing to be the kind of parent you ought to
However, there’s another important side to this: little kids need dads to be tough on them, and little kids need moms to not be.
Certain things work for both of them, but boys run on respect-fuel and girls run on love-fuel.
Little girls flirt and manipulate; little boys brag.
So while they are young, saturate your boys with respect and your girls with love.
Tell your young boy that he is really strong, that he is really brave, that he is really fast.
You are responsible for the kids, and if you’ve got a really good hunch, but you don’t know for sure, you don’t want a miscarriage of justice, since you are teaching your kids how to administer justice.
