From reading the book, you know that one of the key differences between these two experiences of life is the way we see and experience other people: When we are in the box, we experience others not as people with their own lives but as objects within our lives. When we experience others in these two ways, we experience ourselves differently as well. The choice to see another as either a person or an object is a choice between whether we will see and experience ourselves and others truthfully or erroneously.