When we are children we cannot simply say, “Oh, my parents are not available to care for me well because they are distracted or disturbed. I know I have experience-expectant neural connections that are waiting for their love and are frustrated right now. So my parents are not able to keep me safe. No problem, I’ll just find my need for being seen, soothed, safe, and secure elsewhere.” If children could reason like that, they would feel completely at risk of dying without the protection of their parents. That incessant feeling of dread could drive a person insane. So instead of going insane,
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