What a Time to be Alone: The Slumflower's Guide to Why You Are Already Enough

by Chidera Eggerue

It’s time we learn to find security in our solitude. Thankfully, it’s never too late to find safety in yourself.

SAVE SOME LOVE FOR YOURSELF. YOU DESERVE IT.

The world loves to paint confidence in a terrible light because to be confident means to be self- sufficient.

If in doubt, it’s always wise to remind yourself that nobody who truly loves their self allows themselves to project negativity onto another human being.

Everything you feel, no matter how deep or shallow, is temporary.

‘ Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone. ’

The only way to avoid disappintment is to be content with the present.

The biggest mistake you can make is to allow yourself to get sidetracked by people who will never be willing to stay with you during the storm they create in your life through their own selfi shness.

‘ IT’ DOESN’T REALLY GET BETTER. YOU DO.

QUIT OVER- EXPLAINING. THE WORLD IS STILL GOING TO JUDGE YOU.

DO NOT CREATE EXPECTATIONS YOU KNOW YOU CANNOT LIVE UP TO.

When you die, nobody is going to remember you as the person who made sure they pleased everyone and silenced their self.

You do not exist to meet somebody else’s standards. The only standards worth meeting are your own.

Stop waiting for people to give you permission to believe that you are amazing.

The only difference between four- year- old you and current you is time. You’re still the same fragile human being who wants to be loved.

People with a saviour complex often have abandonment issues and try to make themselves indispensable and irreplaceable to people by turning themselves into an emotional toolbox.

Minding your business is the new black.

You deserve greatness, so give it to yourself. We need to learn to stop feeling so guilty for being kind to ourselves.

SELF- LOVE IS THE LEAST AGGRESSIVE, MOST EFFECTIVE, FORM OF INTIMIDATION.

You cannot deceive someone who knows what they want. You cannot control someone who knows who they are.

For the world, I’ll always be too much of one thing or not enough of another, but for myself I will ALWAYS be enough.

People hate seeing you raise your standards because it makes them question their own ability to raise their’s.

I’ll let you know this: you’re better off keeping your distance consistently, rather than flaking here and there and becoming known as an inconsistent person.

SOMETIMES, ‘ I FORGOT’ ACTUALLY MEANS ‘ I DIDN’T CARE ENOUGH TO PAY ATTENTION’ .

Apologies do not change intentions.

Boredom and loneliness creates the ideal breeding ground for bad decisions.

be nice to people for no reason.

Mixed signals aren’t mysterious. Mixed signals are the prelude to manipulation.

Once you snap out of the fear of being alone, you become invincible. Your life finally becomes yours to shape.

The only two things in life we can control are our intentions and our reactions.

FORMING ATTACHMENTS TO EXPECTATIONS WILL ONLY CREATE DISAPPOINTMENT.

May you fi nd comfort in your identity instead of seeking safety in other people’s.

Lower your expectations of others. Raise your expectations of yourself.