Our hearts default to a posture of self-focus. I instinctively place myself at the center of my relationships. I tend to think about how others have wronged me––how they have been inconsiderate, have expressed anger, or have gossiped about me. In truth, though, the roots of these weeds find fertile soil in my own soul as well. If we mainly think about the weeds that others need to uproot, and not our own, our relationships won’t flourish. Because this very impulse—this tendency to think about
