Naturally Tan

by Tan France

I didn’t need a fucking double whammy in my life. I was too busy being brown to be bothered about who I’d eventually end up wanting to marry. I experienced a lot of racism as a kid, not necessarily at school but with people who lived in my town. I spent so much time trying not to get attacked for being brown; there wasn’t a lot of headspace to focus on not seeming gay.

Until I met Rob, I thought, Relationships are miserable. Relationships are hard. But there are things about relationships that make them worth it. Now, I see that I was completely fucking wrong. You should expect to be happy every day. Anyone who says marriage is hard might need to see someone. My marriage is the easiest thing in my life. Other things are hard, and the thing that makes everything easier is my marriage. That’s not to say that a marriage is without challenges, but hard should not be your general state.