Another thing I hear a lot is “I met this guy, and he’s great, but…” This irks me more than anything in the world. It’s usually followed by something like, “I don’t like his style, so I’m going to encourage him to dress like this…” or “I don’t like his job, so I’m going to encourage him to do something else…” No. Wrong. You can’t change him. You’re not that formidable. And he may be happy exactly the way he is. If you want to change that much of a person, they’re not your fucking person. This is especially true if the thing you want to change is a fundamental thing, like if the person doesn’t
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