“In the case of friends, I will often ask, if someone asks me to do something, ‘Zero to ten, how much are you asking me to do this? Because if it’s a ten and you need me to do this, I will do it, but I have very little bandwidth right now so let me know. If it’s really, really important to you, I will do my best to help and move things around, but if not, I’ll pass.’ True friends, nine times out of ten, will give you a pass.
