You can’t stop thinking, “How could he do that to me?” The thought consumes you for weeks and you decide to cut ties with him. Months later you’re still resenting him. Notice that the event in itself isn’t upsetting. What creates resentment is your interpretation of the event. Now, is it possible that your interpretation was wrong? What if your friend assumed you wouldn’t like the party? What if he thought you were too busy? Sure, he should have at least invited you, but nobody is perfect. If you’d put aside your interpretation and confronted him at the time, maybe things would have turned out
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