Children who have known disengagement may have some experiences of connection with their parents, but only if they are making good grades, taking their vitamins, and offering some type of needed support to parents. Their compliance and denial of emotional needs allow the family system to continue without the need for change. The moment these children have opinions or reveal unpleasant emotions, conflict ensues and the perks of their previous roles evaporate. To survive, disengaged children may grow up to become successful professionals who detach from their families, as their parents before
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