I have come to understand that people make bad decisions not because of the potential for pleasure but to add additional evidence to their self-judgment. Healing involves making conscious decisions about the data of sexual brokenness in one’s life. Your behavior can be an invitation to become an adult and heal the pain driving your decisions, or it will inevitably be irrefutable evidence that proves how pathetic you have become. To write a new sexual story for yourself, something must shift in your commitment to hiding the anxiety, shame, and anger in your life.
