There’s only so much anyone can do when you’re in this situation. They can’t clean up my mother’s urine or put her to bed. They can’t fill out the paperwork needed to sort out financial aid or finalise Mum’s will. They can’t be there 24/7, watching her to make sure she doesn’t burn down the house or try to eat uncooked bacon from the refrigerator. No, they can’t do any of that.