Extreme Ownership: How U.S. Navy SEALs Lead and Win

by Jocko Willink

don’t confuse being honest with being a blunt and untactful and a jerk. You have to do jiu-jitsu. And for anyone that doesn’t do jiu-jitsu, jiu-jitsu is a very nuanced game, where you’re constantly trying to set things up and shape the situation.