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How often have you judged your partner for something you thought they had done and later found out that your judgment was incorrect?
The goal is to look at the differences between your ideas and beliefs and your behaviors, as the latter can often show you how you really feel about a situation.
Ironically, the person who yells in relationships is often the one who doesn't feel heard.
Remember, commitment to you means that sometimes you say no to your partner from a place of love rather than saying yes from a place of accommodation.
but be sure to check yourself and confirm that you are willing to listen to their response and that you aren't using this method to avoid having to face their reply.
I do this all the time..it os really due to low self esteem. And being afraid to ask for money
Finally, sitting silently with your partner, with both of you saying nothing, is a kind of mediation in and of itself. In this place of pure being, neither of you needs to fill the space with words or actions.
but your preferences are no longer demands,
when one relationship ends, it creates room for another to begin. You are never too old, or too damaged, or too fill-in-the-blank to experience love at the deepest level. Your mind may tell you these things from time to time, but this is the voice of the judge and the victim, not the voice of truth.
