If you read the fine print, you will find that life is subject to change without notice. I did not fill up my tragedy punch card with a dead husband, a dead parent, and a lost pregnancy. Tragedy is like a BOGO that never ends, for things you never wanted. It’s a terrible deal, but it’s not up for negotiating. The acknowledgment that when bad things happen they can just keep happening holds a lot of power. It can shut you down or open you up. Nobody would blame you for shutting yourself around your hurt, your loss. Nobody would blame you for making you or your life smaller, for rolling up like
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