When your husband dies, it feels like a ridiculous scene that has been thrust upon you by some obnoxious idiot, and it is. You did not get to choose this, but here it is, in all its horrifying glory. Yes is nothing but acceptance. And is where the good part happens. The good part is a conjunction? You bet it is. Because and is about possibility and opportunity. And includes what is and makes room for what could be. And doesn’t require you to love the situation, or to like the situation; it just requires you to live.
