you are the mother of a new baby, however, polite conversation is typically a desperate grasp at information: How does your child nap, how does he eat, what brand of diapers do you use? The trick is to answer questions honestly but be ready to disavow whatever you do if, compared to the other person’s routine, it’s too strenuous or too laid back. The fantasy is meeting another parent who does the exact same things you do so you don’t have to question or defend any of it.
