We think that if the other person is doing something, we have to as well. I have to grow up, educate myself a particular way and get a job. I have to make money – otherwise, I am not successful. I have to be a certain way, or I won’t get married. I have to produce a couple of kids, and then I have to go through the challenges of life. Have to, have to, have to. All these ‘have to’s: I have to pray; I have to go to a temple; I have to behave in a particular manner. This person’s car is bigger than mine. He looks very happy, because his Facebook pictures show that and so on.
