The lie I had believed was that I must have gay sex to be whole. Like many gay people, my outrage at the church for denying gay marriage came from the belief that sex is a requirement for human flourishing. I came to realize that gay marriage, for a Christian, is an oxymoron, as marriage is framed by God in the Scriptures as solely between a man and a woman. Claiming it can be anything else is to argue from scriptural silence. The practical reality is that friendship not only suffices for me but is the greatest love there is to experience. I don’t need marriage.
