What to Do When I'm Gone: A Mother's Wisdom to Her Daughter

by Suzy Hopkins

What we carry of other people, even when they’re alive, is simply our perception of them, an idea. That means I’m here as long as you remember me.

Let yourself feel how you feel. Then, realize that the sun is out, the dog needs to be walked, that huge pile of laundry could use some attention,

If you’re upset with someone, it’s probably related to the fact that you love this person. Go to bed early and get a good night’s sleep. The next morning, pretend that a meteor is going to hit the earth in five minutes, wiping out your neighborhood. Would you be worried about who’s right and who’s wrong, or would you just want to give a hug and never let go? Problem solved.

Better yet, read a great book. Let it transport you to another place and time, which—when you finally close your eyes—may help you appreciate where you are right now.