Next step: With a clear head, actively identify your guiding values. I like to think of my core values as the bull’s-eyes of life and my beliefs as the arrows that either hit or miss those targets. For example, if you value being healthy but you believe it’s okay to smoke a few cigarettes every day, then you are not going to hit your target, and you’re not going to be healthy. If you value family, like I do, but you believe you have to work eighty-hour weeks, including weekends, regularly missing events in your kids’ lives, then you’re not going to hit that target. If you value becoming your
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