Maybe retracing our steps to the origin of the problem is helpful. Most emotional wounds are caused by a child’s belief or feedback that he is deficient, defective, or annoying—probably all three. Perhaps the father had tiny warmth issues, and the mother was a bit tense, or vice versa. To make the parents proud, the child needed to do better, add certain qualities, gain or lose some weight, remove any offending traits or tics, and not make other people get inferiority complexes.
my mother, my father, my brother...
orginating with my birth mother and father
