The petals go from those tough, muscular baby belly buttons, to big and strong, to fragile, to papery, and then to nourishment—invisible, beneficent, here.
This chapter was particularly moving and enlightening
The thoughts on gratitude and death in particular- gratitude for what made you a better person - I think this has been my problem with these gratitude lists all along-=they are based on what the author calls transactional gratitude- thanking for some thing-=
The second related piece is the discussion of being at the bedside - which I still blank out of my mind- I didn’t know what to do- say-=work on physical comfort but particularly at the end we characterized it as he was already gone. But he wasn’t - he was somewhere between - and I didn’t know how to be there
