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March 4 - March 10, 2023
Perfection is not the price of love. Practice is.
Love is an action even more than a feeling.
Happy relationships aren’t relationships where there is no fighting. They are relationships where repairs are made after regrettable incidents happen—and where a couple connects with each other day to day.
They don’t threaten to leave when times get tough. And they don’t spend time thinking that their ideal partner is still out there somewhere,
If things are not going well, you give voice to your feelings and needs to your partner, rather than complaining to someone else.
A big source of trouble is the misconception that our problems are all solvable.
Differences in neatness and organization.
Differences with respect to relatives.
Differences in socializing.
Differences with respect to religion and spirituality.
All couples have perpetual problems,
There is no winner in a healthy conflict; there is only understanding and resolution or acceptance.
Communicate a fundamental acceptance of your partner’s personality,
Recognize when a problem is solvable and when it’s not. Not all conflict can, or needs to, be resolved.
How was conflict handled in your family growing up?
How do you like to make up after a disagreement?
What’s your favorite time to make love and why? What’s your favorite position?
Couples need to avoid the dichotomy of characterizing one another in terms of the two most common stereotypes: the Spender and the Saver.
The conflicts around money are best navigated when you understand the ways your history with money are the same, and the ways they’re different.
Money issues aren’t about dollars and cents; they are about what money means to each partner in a relationship.
What does your ideal family look like?
Adventure doesn’t have to happen on far-off mountaintops or at the risk of life and limb. At its core, it’s simply seeking what is new and different.
“The opposite of play is not work—it’s depression.”
Take a hike or long walk together
Take a drive this weekend to somewhere we’ve both wanted to explore
Plan a ...
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Choose and learn a new video game together
Go roller-skating or ice-skating
Go see a live performance:
How did you like to play when you were a child?
What adventures do you want to have before you die?
shared religious belief is less important than shared interests, good sex, and division of household labor.
Your individual beliefs and practices about spirituality and religion aren’t as important as viewing your relationship and the rituals and goals you create together as sacred, spiritual, and meaningful.
