Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

by John M. Gottman

it’s our commitment to being curious rather than correct that allows us to turn toward instead of away from one another in the moments of disagreement.

Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.

Perfection is not the price of love. Practice is. We practice how to express our love and how to receive our partner’s love. Love is an action even more than a feeling. It requires intention and attention, a practice we call attunement.

Make dedicated, nonnegotiable time for each other a priority, and never stop being curious about your partner.