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it’s our commitment to being curious rather than correct that allows us to turn toward instead of away from one another in the moments of disagreement.
Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts.
You can spend a lifetime being curious about the inner world of your partner, and being brave enough to share your own inner world, and never be done discovering all there is to know about each other.
Perfection is not the price of love. Practice is. We practice how to express our love and how to receive our partner’s love. Love is an action even more than a feeling. It requires intention and attention, a practice we call attunement.
Make dedicated, nonnegotiable time for each other a priority, and never stop being curious about your partner.
Decades of research show that the great relationships—the masters—are built on respect, empathy, and a profound understanding of each other.
Happily ever after simply means that both partners are known, valued, accepted for who they are and who they are becoming.
One of the great gifts of relationship and marriage—and there are many—is the ability to see the world through the eyes of another person, intimately, deeply, profoundly, in a way we’re almost never able to do with another human being. If you approach the mystery that is your partner with curiosity, your relationship and your life will be immeasurably enriched.
Happy couples are not so very different from unhappy couples; they are simply able to make repairs to their relationship easier and faster so they can get back to the joy of being together.
date nights should be a permanent part of a lifetime of love and connection.
prioritized being together and gave our word to each other that our relationship would come first,
a date is a preplanned time where the two of you leave your work life and your work-in-the-home life, and spend a set amount of time focusing on each other, and really talking and listening to each other.
the main event of a date night is just time to be together and to reconnect, to fall back in love and remind yourselves that there is more to your relationship than sharing a home or coparenting children. You remind yourselves that you are first and foremost friends and lovers.
date night is more than an obligation—it’s a commitment to your relationship and to your hopes for a happy marriage.
by showing your commitment to your relationship with your partner, you’re nurturing your children by ensuring that they will be raised by parents in a healthy and stable relationship. Children feed off of the love in a marriage. Remember they are constantly modeling you, and you want them to see how you sustain a loving marriage.
