Many couples who have sex have never together experienced sexual intimacy. A man and woman can share their bodies without being fully present with each other emotionally and spiritually. They may check out mentally or bring to mind fantasies or images of another person while being physically one with their spouse. I know a couple, Steve and Barbara, who have been married for fifty years. Much of their married lives, they settled for a cheap imitation of intimacy, him busying himself with work and sexual fantasies, and her hiding behind walls because of abuse and rejection. Steve shared, “We
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