Refusing to express feelings, act, or decide because of what MIGHT happen to you. • Making excuses for others’ hurtful behavior and not dealing with them about it. • Over-politeness: always putting others first or letting them take your turn or disturb you without your speaking up. • Acting from a sense of obligation (a form of fear). • Smoothing over situations so that the real feelings do not emerge (from yourself or others). • Over-commitment: doing too much for too long for too little thanks, and when even more is asked of you, doing it dutifully. • Not registering your recoil from biased
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