And when we stop, when we complain, when we expose that whatever isn’t “supposed” to be happening in our church, our school, or our home is happening, too often the response is that whatever’s happening is our “fault.” Be it from a doctor who says your real problem is your acne or your complaining, not your pain, or from a church board who decides to let the pastor who admitted to touching you go, but then quietly moves him on to another church, implying that they don’t think he will do it again there, which means, of course, he isn’t the problem. You are.
