“Lucy’s version of The Lie was almost the exact opposite of mine,” she continued. “Mine was ‘no one will want you if you’re smart and opinionated,’ and hers was ‘I have to put up with everything in my relationship because my opinions don’t matter and what I want doesn’t matter.’ ” “I don’t know that those are opposites,” I suggested. “You were both reacting to the same gender-based lie: Be submissive and be loved, or be a leader and be alone forever. It’s the same story, the same lie. You just made different choices within it. Lucy chose submission for the sake of having a relationship; you
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