“My dad said he didn’t have a video camera in my room so he’d never know exactly what happened. I hated him for saying that, though he’s since said he never said it. The church views men as animals with no agency. The whole ‘as a girl it’s your job to stop guys from doing stuff’ line of thinking. So my parents treated my brother like he’d messed up but nothing more, and I felt really blamed. They acted like it was consensual, like it was sex. Sex is so penalized in evangelicalism, it’s easier to chalk rape and abuse up to sex and be done with it. But I don’t think what happened between me and
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