“We’ve had several conversations in which I’ve said, ‘I think you should break up with me because I think I’m going to ruin your life.’ He is always so steady, saying I don’t get to make that choice for him. I get to make that choice for myself in terms of whether or not I wanted to be with him, but I can’t decide for him whether or not he wants to be with me.” “How do you fear you might ruin his life?” I asked. “It’s a vague notion. I was taught smart, strong women destroy men. So it’s like, ‘Someday, somewhere you’ll regret that you were with me. You’re probably not going to want me. One of
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