“But I couldn’t actually tell anyone about this stuff. It was too bad . . . or not bad enough. I wasn’t going through the ‘right’ kind of hard times. It wasn’t drugs or any of the other ‘right’ struggles. I couldn’t get up in front of youth group and say, ‘Hey, I had oral sex with a lot of my girlfriends. You don’t want to hear about that? You don’t want to talk about
