I was about fifteen years old when I first heard a pastor say from the pulpit: “Every man wants a woman who is a lamb in the day, and a tiger at night.” The congregation laughed. A few people clapped. My face turned red. I hadn’t even had my first kiss, and already I felt myself on a tightrope strung between two opposing sexual expectations. I have heard the tiger/lamb language many times since. Interviewees share about it being said from pulpits, in Bible studies, and in Christian counseling sessions. Somehow, purity culture has turned a pornographic fantasy about a virgin turned vamp into
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