Here’s the point. Adhering to structures, boundaries, or rules can be very beneficial. But rules in and of themselves should not be your master, robbing you of the freedom to do good for others or yourself. That is why I like to say it this way: Find the misery and make a rule.1 If there is an area of life in which you are suffering, make a personal rule to keep it from hurting you. If you get a stomachache and break out in a rash every time you eat a certain food, then make a rule that you will stay away from that food. Just as an alcoholic cannot ever have even a sip of wine, you just can’t
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