The Bullet Journal Method: Track Your Past, Order Your Present, Plan Your Future

by Ryder Carroll

Look through your Bullet Journal to see who you’re spending your time with. You may know how you feel about them, but have you ever considered their impact on you? Start to take notes on some of these interactions. Don’t worry, you’re not keeping creepy records on your friends; you’re simply becoming mindful of how their radiance affects you. Add some notes about the dinner, date, or meeting when you get home. Did you have fun? What did you learn? Was most of your time spent just sitting there listening to their problems . . . again? How do you feel when you’re with them? You can quickly capture it like this: Dinner with Becca @ Evelina’s Talked about aspirations Want to travel to Portugal together Want to co-host the next party Always leave feeling motivated after we hang out It may seem awkward at first, but recording your interactions grants you the opportunity to articulate something you may not have otherwise. You never know what it could reveal. Maybe you realize that the relationship is vampiric: It often leaves you feeling drained. Or that it’s one-sided: You always call and put in all the work. In contrast, you may realize that some people leave you feeling inspired, lighter, energized, contemplative, or calmer. Whatever the case may be, you’re becoming more aware so you can be intentional about managing your relationships, including which relationships are worth managing at all.