The Jealousy Cure: Learn to Trust, Overcome Possessiveness, and Save Your Relationship

by Robert L. Leahy

And even when our genes push us to grasp and control those we love, ultimately, it is in letting go of those urges that we can finally find peace and connection.

Let go

intense love and intense fear. The actions that result can jeopardize the very relationship that you want to protect.

Dialectics

It helps to look at reality—not just your thoughts and feelings. Emotions are not always accurate predictors of reality. Because jealousy is such a passionate and overwhelming emotion, standing back and getting some distance from it may seem impossible. But if you slow down your thinking, step aside from your feelings for a few moments, and reflect on what you are telling yourself, maybe things can change. Maybe you don’t have to be hijacked

Reality testing

Jealousy is passion directed against the threat of betrayal or the threat of abandonment. It’s

Definition

worry: worriers equate uncertainty with a bad outcome and they view uncertainty as unacceptable.23 If you are prone to worry, you may believe that it will reduce or eliminate uncertainty, and that checking, collecting information, and seeking reassurance will eliminate uncertainty.

Wodrry