Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man

by Steve Harvey

So if this is on his mind, and he hasn’t lined up the who he is, the what he does, and the how much he makes in the way that he sees fit, he can’t possibly be to you what he wants to be.

The way you can help him get there is to help him focus on his dream, see the vision, and implement his plan.

That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance.

Because a man’s love isn’t like a woman’s love.

In other words, you will have a title—an official one that far extends beyond “this is my friend,” or “this is__________ (insert your name here).”

A man who professes you as his own is also saying in not so many words that he’s claiming you—that you are his.

If he introduces you as his “friend,” or by your name, have no doubt that’s all you are. He doesn’t think any more of you than that.

So, if you’ve been dating a guy for at least ninety days and you’ve never met his mother, you don’t go to church together, you haven’t been around his family or his friends, and he took you to a networking/job/social function and introduced you by your name, then you’re not in his plans—he doesn’t see you in his future.

It is your right to expect that a man will pay for your dinner, your movie ticket, your club entry fee, or whatever else he has to pay for in exchange for your time.

When a man truly loves you, anybody who says, does, suggests, or even thinks about doing something offensive to you stands the risk of being obliterated.

a real man is a protector.

“The Three Ps of Love—Profess, Provide, and Protect.”

We have to feel like somebody’s got our back—like we’re the king, even if we’re not.

But for men, love is loyalty. We want you to show your love to us by being loyal.

I’m telling you right now: if you go to your man with a situation that’s fixable and he doesn’t try to fix it, he is not your man—he is not in love with you.

a man always wants something. Always. And when it comes to women, that plan is always to find out two things: (1) if you’re willing to sleep with him, and (2) if you are, how much it will cost to get you to sleep with him.

Never gives in easily, and the standards/requirements start the moment you open your mouth.

Know that if this man isn’t looking for a serious relationship, you’re not going to change his mind just because you two are going out on dates and being intimate.

The first step, I think, is to get over the fear of losing a man by confronting him.

by making the man be really clear up front about what he wants out of his life and his relationship with you.

First, find out how he feels about family. What are his views on it? Does he want a family? How does he feel about children?