Get your kids to listen even when they don't want to: Avoid the shouting, threats, and bribes with these Emotionally Intelligent skills and boundaries - (toddler to teen)

by Robin Booth

When a child is told what to do, they resist this more due to the power struggle of independence opposed to actually what they have to do.

Thinking about conversion like a power struggle changed the way I think

"If you always do what you always did you'll always get what you always got.”

“It looks like that door is really sticking today. Sometimes it helps if you turn the knob all the way first.” “Cutting carefully around those shapes is not always easy. Sometimes it is easier if you hold the scissors like this.” “Sometimes clay is hard and difficult to work with. Perhaps the clay will be softer if we put some water with it.”

Simple changes to a sentence makes a huge impact