F*** You Very Much: The surprising truth about why people are so rude

by Danny Wallace

We need politeness because it is right, it lifts our spirits, it makes things better, it lubricates the day and helps everything run smoother.

We are self-entitled, knee-jerking, know-it-all thunderdicks.

we confuse ‘honesty’ with ‘opinion’,

Some go out of their way to be rude, like the coal-hearted newspaper columnist desperately scrabbling around on deadline for thuggish ways to insult whoever’s looking weak, just so one day she can line her own coffin with slightly more expensive felt. Like the millionaires on Saturday-night TV making more money and generating more fame by humiliating those with mental health problems who just want a tiny slice of the hopeless dream they’re being sold by the very people who’ll never give it to them.

Our simple, monkey brains find it difficult to ignore only half a story. It doesn’t make sense to us. Subconsciously, part of us tries to fill in the gaps, whether we want to or not.

This enforced witnessing, this theft of control, has a profound effect on our abilities to function up to our usual standards.

Power is having control. But status is the admiration associated with having that control. When you lack status, you tend already to feel disrespected.

Being appreciated does wonders, and changes the way we act. It gives us our own sense of power.

Political correctness has really only ever been a system developed to protect those in a vulnerable position by discouraging those in the majority from needlessly, rudely offending them.

Political correctness in its simplest form just means choosing your words more carefully, but so frothy-mouthed is the horde they can’t see the logic for the bile.

men are almost three times more likely to interrupt a woman as they are a man.

rudeness fogs our brain and stops us processing new information properly.