being run by our conditioning. We can reach the point where we’re able to speak about what’s driving us in certain circumstances, but we may use this capacity to camouflage what’s driving us at a deeper level. For example, we may give generously or be very attentive, and we may assume that we do so because we simply want to make a difference, “give back,” or be of service, when in fact we’re motivated by our desire to feel better about ourselves or to get a certain kind of recognition for our efforts.
